The Big Race

Joining in
What is the race like?
Can I make it?
Does it really matter?

Getting Ready
Getting in Shape
Your Trainers
Distance Training
Course Overview

Crossing the Line
Readying the Mind
Mastering the Course
Deciding to Win
Feel for winning
Building blocks
Design of marriage
Relevance of marrriage
Life changing truths
1) Loving or lusting
Choice of love
Fulfillment problems
Sources of love
Questions of love
Overcoming lusts
2) Filled or empty
Finding fulfillment
Problems of fulfillment
Sources of fulfillment
Questions of fulfillment
3) Security or loneliness
Choosing security
Overcoming loneliness
Clarifying our destination

Our Battle Plan

Running the Race
Gaining stamina
Overcoming hurdles
Roadside cheer
Feeling overwhelmed
Thoughts controlled!

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3) Forever Secure
The two choices
The choice of security
Overcoming lusts


Some people think love is weak. These people believe that freedom is more powerful than commitment and taking more strategic than giving. These people truly have not yet met up with true love.

Love is stronger than all things including hate and violence. Love like heat softens the hardest rocks.
Love like light illuminates the darkest caves.
Love like water fills the deepest holes.
Nothing can withstand its intensity and purpose.

The light of God's glory in Christ is covering the earth. God's love shall win the battle; it has won on the cross. The love of God like light flowing from the cross is sweeping across the earth overcoming the darkness. The darkness is losing its intensity; the dawn is coming. When the sun fully rises over the earth, there will be no more room for the dark deeds of our soul. We now need to live in light of the eternal glory of God or suffer forever.

"Put me like a seal over your heart,
Like a seal on your arm.
For love is as strong as death,
Jealousy is as severe as Sheol;
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
The very flame of the LORD. Many waters cannot quench love, Nor will rivers overflow it;
If a man were to give all the riches of his house for love,
It would be utterly despised."
(Song of Solomon 8:6-7, NASB).

Marriage rightly understood stands not for confinement but rather for liberty. Marriage stands for that enduring life-long relationship. Relationships are meant to grow. Depth, sharing, openness, love, joy, etc. are all shared on increasingly deep and meaningful levels.

Loneliness with all of its non-belongingness, alienation, depression and sadness is taking its toll on our modern society. People experience with drugs, sex play, car fascination, entertainment and suicide just to escape this alienation. Nothing helps. Suicide and death just lead to an alienation without end. Real hope starts with finding relationship with the Lord.

Our Commitment
I refuse to listen to the broken advice of the modern world any longer. I choose the security of the Lord. I choose to fit into His plan rather than insisting on the meaningless and painful association with those I do not belong. I have decided that my body members including my eyes, will not pursue cheap relationships. I will make my prime relationship to be with the Lord God Himself through Christ. He will be my first love. He will be the One I seek. And I will invite Him now to put my life back together. I seek Him to be my life's deep security. I need not again wander off seeking what I think I need.The Lord is my Rock, my security, forever. Let me be wed to the Lord forever.

As for my spouse, I commit myself in the sight of God to restore and endure. Money, fame and fascinations are no longer going to extend beyond my own spouse. I am pledging devotion and commitment. I want to swim deep in the waters of commitment and by God's grace model the beauty you have shown to me. Life is a stream of tests on my pledge. It will be hard. I will be tempted. But God I have no other life than the one You have called and prepared me for.

Our Prayer
Dear Father, forgive me for the ways I have superficially run my life. I have messed things up totally. Just look at the barreness of my life with all of its sad loneliness. I now resign my own will and place it at your feet. I need You and You alone. I want Your love for ever and ever. My life can well be described as brokenness. Please pick me up and hold me tight. Hold me and never let me go. Hold me so that I might never seek another's hold of my life. Your plan is the only plan for my life. If it means I am to be single, I only ask that Your mightly love inflame me. If it means I am to wed and so show to others what your love is like in relationship, then let me be a faithful and loyal partner dedicated to loving my spouse. But never let the temporary things of earth allure me away from your eternal arms. Your presence is life, hope and love. You are my new desire. In Christ's Name, Amen.