The Big Race

Joining in
What is the race like?
Can I make it?
Does it really matter?

Getting Ready
Getting in Shape
Your Trainers
Distance Training
Course Overview

Crossing the Line
Readying the Mind
Mastering the Course
Four designs
1) Human sexuality
Life applications
2) Blended Design
Partner Confusion
Being an Overcoming
Escaping homosexuality
Homosexual tendencies
3) Exclusive Design
Loving ones wife
"What if" questions
4) Whole hearted
Assessment time

Deciding to Win

Running the Race
Gaining stamina
Overcoming hurdles
Roadside cheer
Feeling overwhelmed
Thoughts controlled!

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God's Sexual Design for our Lives

The question is, then, what is that true and good design for our lives that enables us to live the most fulfilled lives possible?

We will first tell you what God's design is. Here we will focus on four major principles found in the scriptures. These will give to us a foundation on understanding our sexual natures and many applications to life. We hope many unanswered questions will be dealt with frankly here. Please skip over material that is not applicable to your situation. We are trying to touch on each topic.

But make sure you don't skip the last section which helps us know why and how God's rules work. Or in more forward talk, "Why should I give up my lusts? Is the design that good?"

The different questions for each of the four following sections are below. You might prefer to download the outline/questions in pdf (adobe acrobat) form. The five pages would have all the questions in nice printable form.

Or click each picture below for the outline questions for each section. At any point in this section, you can click on 'Assessment time' to get to those questions.

#1 A Special Design: Sexuality
God designed human beings as sexual beings. He created both male and female as two distinct but complementary sexes. Foundational to a stable life is understanding, accepting and affirming our own gender.
#2 A Blended Design: Marriage
God designed us for heterosexual marriage. Singleness will be discussed elsewhere. God has defined marriage as a special covenant relationship between one male and one female. When we try to redefine marriage and its purpose, then our lives along with the whole society are broken down.
#3 An Exclusive Design: Whole-hearted
God has designed marriage for whole-hearted relationships. God has made marriage like ownership. A spouse literally belongs to each other. Straying eyes and hearts strikes right against the foundation of marriage and love.
#4 A Permanent Design: Enduring
Marriage is for life. The marriage vows hold "until death do we part." God has not given us alternative choices for the crises of life. There are no escape hatches because the life-long commitment is the very thing needed to force us to work through our difficulties with each other.