The Big Race

Joining in
What is the race like?
Can I make it?
Does it really matter?

Getting Ready
Getting in Shape
Your Trainers
Distance Training
Course Overview

Crossing the Line
Readying the Mind
Mastering the Course
Deciding to Win
Feel for winning
Building blocks
Design of marriage
Relevance of marrriage
Life changing truths
1) Loving or lusting
Choice of love
Fulfillment problems
Sources of love
Questions of love
Overcoming lusts
2) Filled or empty
Finding fulfillment
Problems of fulfillment
Sources of fulfillment
Questions of fulfillment
3) Security or loneliness
Choosing security
Overcoming loneliness
Clarifying our destination

Our Battle Plan

Running the Race
Gaining stamina
Overcoming hurdles
Roadside cheer
Feeling overwhelmed
Thoughts controlled!

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Three Life Principles for Fulfillment

Running a race is hard work. The preparation, the cost, and the hard drive all tax` our bodies. Why are we going to run this race for sexual purity? Because it matters. We are going to work on self-control all of our lives because it greatly matters. Anything short of this takes cheap fun and transforms it into an ugly and desperate defeat

The three life–changing truths that God made available to us are:

Three Life Principles for a Fulfilling Marriage
1) Unconditional love
2) Inner fulfillment
3) Forever secure

Two Truths: Love or Lust
Unconditional love

God has designed us to replicate His love by focusing on meeting the needs of others. When we refuse to serve ourselves and choose to meet other people's needs, a great and noble good occurs inducing wonderful ramifications. This truth is intensified in the marriage context and modeled through a husband's constant love for his wife.


Two Choices: Empty or Filled
Inner fulfillment

God has designed us that when we respond to His great love initiative, we flourish in His strong and secure environment. His love unleashes a great joy and spontaneity of new life to cause greater blessings to flow out from our lives. This truth is intensified in the marriage context and modeled through a wife's respectful response to her husband.

Forever secure
Forever secure

God has designed a special binding relationship that protects and secures this beautifully integrated relationship forever. "And they lived happily ever after" is true. This truth is symbolized and taught through a loyal and lifelong marriage.